4 Reasons to Build A Relationship With Your Child's Teacher

There was a time when the thought of my son's teacher would immediately make me angry. Fortunately, I don't have that problem this year. He has a teacher who works incredibly hard for her students. And having her has really driven home for me the importance of a positive parent-teacher relationship. I am always sending notes or requesting conferences. I show up to every parent night and I work hard to make sure my son knows that she and I are on the same team. What I've learned this year inspired me to share with you the four reasons why you should build a relationship with your son or daughter's teacher.

The teacher has 8 hours each day to impress upon your child.

For majority of the day, your child is being lead by this person and they are being influenced by their thoughts and opinions. This is huge. Most of your child's wake hours are spent with their teachers during the week. So, it's important that you (1) know who's standing in front of that class and (2) feel good about who will be leading your child for the next 9 months.

One bad year creates the need for two consecutively good years.

Did you know that if your child has a bad year --the teacher is checked out or overwhelmed -- that he or she will need two consecutive years of good teachers to make up for it. That places a lot of pressure on the teacher. Sounds bad, I know but that's our reality. Classrooms are filled with children with varying personalities and learning styles. The probability of your child struggling with a teacher one year and landing in the classrooms of two teachers who can make up for what they've missed on their own is unlikely. That's why it's super important to have a relationship and to be present. If you discover that this year may be a problem year, you can intervene early by hiring a tutor and enlisting the support of learning programs like PGKC. The relationship empowers you to make informed decisions and provisions.

The teacher is able to better serve your child.

When you and the teacher have a relationship, he/she will have a better understanding of your child. They will know that behavior changes are the result of an unplanned long night or death in the family. A relationship will also make it possible for the teacher to 'reach' your son or daughter. If you know that your child is a visual learner, conversations with the teacher will make her aware and will give her the opportunity to differentiate her instruction for your child and others like him. 

Your child will feel obligated to perform when he knows you and the teacher are a team.

Remember how you used to play your parents against one another when you were a child? You knew that one was the easy parent and would back you up, even when you were wrong. You would rely heavily on that parent to get you out of unfavorable situations and you would ask that parent for permission because you knew the answer would always be yes. Take that memory and apply it here. If your child feels that you and the teacher are playing for different teams, they will use that to their advantage. They will have you at the parent-teacher conference mad and ready to argue, all the while, they are in the wrong. Don't be that parent. Instead, build the relationship and team teach your child to success-dom.